音频:合规

这是来自Sober Podcast#213的音频片段,已发送至 清醒 播客 members.

There are tools available for us, to help us to be 清醒, it’只是我们不喜欢它们,我们也不想使用它们。

I’d have to say that a good indicator of the probability of success that 您 will be long-term 清醒, is an openness to try things that are against what 您r brain thinks is a good idea.

To get 您 started, 您 can listen to this clip from the 音讯, and then 您 can add 您r comments below. 我的博客允许匿名评论。

If 您’d like to listen to the whole thing, 您 can use the link to download at the bottom of the post.

 

家庭作业:
If I were to suggest to 您 that 您 email me 3-4 times a day, what would wolfie say to 您 to explain why 您 CAN’T do it?

 

 

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美女

我想将此放在网上,以追究自己的责任。我想记录一下我头上的声音。我厌倦了考虑喝酒。上次饮用日期:2012年6月30日

  • 沃尔菲 says “You’重新打扰美女。百丽需要有能力在她的商店购物的人。她没有’t want to deal with hangers in like 您.”

  • my 沃尔菲 says—she’s too busy to hear from 您. 您 don’t matter now, 她 has others 她’s moved on and so should 您. Stop being clingy. That’s what my W says.

  • 它没有’t feel like it, but I guess it is 沃尔菲 that tells me I’m “cured” – this is easy now – 我不’不再需要向Belle发送电子邮件了。 ðŸ™,

  • 滑稽!我昨天想整天喝酒。我终于在下午6点对自己说了我真正需要的是什么。我决定自己又累又饿。去吃东西了,早点睡觉。很高兴我改天了。

  • When I first started the 清醒 jumpstart class and 您 told me to email all those times, at first it seemed ok, then the voice started telling me “this is stupid”, “百丽甚至只用一个词就关心所有这些电子邮件‘sober’ in it…占用了她收件箱中的所有空间?” Yep 她 does. I’现在第96天,我’我很乐意通过电子邮件发送这个词“sober”

  • 搞定了。小伙子,我一开始就打架吗–然后我一直不得不重置。我想,对我来说,那是我固执。我自己可以做到’不需要课程,电子邮件或其他任何东西。我只是不喝酒。我不’不需要请客。我不’不需要任何东西,因为我有力量!!!一世’我不确定何时确切地发生了这种变化,但是尽管如此。在我的第180天,我给自己买了一条非常漂亮的昂贵牛仔裤。我的伴侣评论说,所以我告诉他他们是我的180天牛仔裤。他发表了一些评论,例如“你可以买礼物吗?”, and I said “Yes I do!!!!”。在牛仔裤和其他一些更贵的东西之间’有很多小事情;咖啡,松饼,洛萨书籍等,我不知道’每天(不再)发送电子邮件,但只要有需要,我都会发送电子邮件。我也有这种感觉–美女有很多人,有工作等,她’太忙了。但这绝对是沃尔夫。当我去温哥华聚会时,我感到非常不安全,非常“less than”那里的其他人。他们有“bigger”职位;他们都是专业人士。我感到很不安全(即使我喜欢其中的每一个,您也很棒!);然后我意识到–那也是沃尔夫。“You’还不够好,所以你’最好喝一杯,因为你’永远不会像那些女人”. I’我仍然在生活的各个方面都在挣扎。’只是敦促我们喝酒,他’s urging us to feel 少于, to feel insecure, to feel like we NEED him, when all we really need is let others in to help us and to do some good, regular, self care.

  • 是的,每天发送电子邮件确实有所不同。甚至一个字。清醒。我需要继续这样做,所以狼人保持安静!感谢您的提醒。

  • 沃尔菲 would say that I should be able to handle this on my own…那太过分了…won’t make a difference…I’ll be bugging 美女…为什么用电子邮件发送邮件会有所作为?…..seems excessive…贝尔会生我的病….it will seem like i’m really needy…..我有什么问题我可以’t do this alone…..and on and on and on ..

  • I fought against emailing 您 4 times a day for a few months and kept resetting. 沃尔菲 told me that I didn’不需要那种问责制…it wouldn’t help…it wouldn’为我工作。最后,我接受了您的反复建议,即我“email 4 times a day…no matter what”. This is the final tool that helped me to be 清醒. I’ve emailed four times every day for 26 days and have finally quieted the 沃尔菲 voice in my head. Thank 您 so much for suggesting this over and over until I finally listened!

  • 当你向我建议那个选择时,狼人在羞辱和批评我时大声疾呼… “其他所有人无需手持即可进行管理”这种想法。幸运的是,美女一直在重复’每天给我发送电子邮件4次’消息,也很棒‘out of office line’关于继续发送电子邮件,是的,真的是您’不要打扰我说我终于参加了会议,并且可以将狼人拒之门外。每当我需要增加支持时,通过电子邮件发送邮件就可以使狼吞虎咽,这是为什么我现在只有540天的原因很重要。我学会了相信美女和其他人是对的,而狼人不是’t ?

    • This is such a helpful post to hear from people like 您 凯蒂玛依. To see that 您 are such a long way into 您r sobriety because 您 stuck to trusting 美女 and not 沃尔菲. It makes the beginning of this journey far less daunting!

  • 到底我要说什么?它是如何工作的?我什么时候发电子邮件?有什么帮助吗? 2106年7月加入了Jumpstart,至今仍然停留:(。Haven’承诺100天。害怕承担责任,却讨厌循环。

    • 你这个人’d ask “how does it work?”会是我。您什么时候发电子邮件?上午9点,下午1点,下午5点,晚上9点左右如何。有什么帮助吗?您可以尝试30天,然后看看。如果你’ve been trying isn’t working, 您 could try something new. 您 韩元’直到您知道它是如何工作的。拥抱

  • 如果您建议我每天发送3-4次电子邮件(或像我一样每天发送一次)’我同意做),我脑子里想要我喝的​​声音…想要我放弃一切(包括我的生活)以喝酒说…”I’不得不冲进去“sober clock”。我应该把它吸起来“be” 清醒 without having to report it. I am weak. I am being a baby. I am annoying to myself, so I most certainly will be annoying to 美女”.
    我那时’t consistently 清醒, the voice said…”you’re technically 清醒 right this minute so now 您 can send a note claiming to be so, without being a liar”. 的other days, I would remain silent. That was when I would be 清醒 for a week, 4 days, 8…
    有时,即使现在我有150天的时间(始终没有谎言或虚心!)…I (wolfie) simply “forgets” that I was supposed to check in with 您. I’我只是这么忙-对吗?
    如果我记得穿上除臭剂…那么我敢肯定,我会记得给一个单词发电子邮件:清醒。
    从技术上讲,我忘记几次使用除臭剂。但并不经常。现在有这些精美的除臭小湿巾,我可以将其放在钱包或汽车中。 Kinda就像我的手机一样,总是挂在我身上,并具有电子邮件功能,而您的电子邮件地址可随时填充我的新消息“To ” field…

  • Wolfe thinks he has all the answers, thinks he knows everything about 您. What an ass! Reminds me of my ex-husband.

  • 185天,这一周我’ve heard that “Just a couple?”声音再次弹出。是时候打破工具和款待了….

  • My 沃尔菲 would say : “It’s not worth it. It’s not that 她 doesn’不在乎,但是每天要上3到4次吗?那’s huge. 您’再说一次,你’我会一遍又一遍地说同样的事情,她’ll eventually get bored. 您r thoughts and doubts are not that interesting, 您’不要浪费她的时间!她’有其他人的帮助,你可以’不要那么自私’不对。那些可怜的灵魂(谁比你失去的更多)呢?他们也需要帮助!如果不这样做,他们可能会死’立即获得帮助!从字面上看,她可能没有读过您的愚蠢消息,而是读了另一则消息并救了一个人!”

  • 我通常会认为“I don’不想打扰她!” Or “she’我将永远不会回复所有这些电子邮件,那么为什么要打扰呢?”

    我昨天确实发送了两封电子邮件,所以…

  • 我的饮酒声告诉我你和其他人“sober”我在网上发现的支持是极端的,并且/我有更多的饮酒问题。“Wolfie” tries to turn me against the supports that are helping me.The last time I went through a week of allowing myself to drink, I was simultaneously avoiding 清醒 播客s and other 清醒 supports. And I ended up with the worst emotional hangover that I can remember. When I am listening to 清醒 support every day, I am reminded why 我不’t want to drink…and 我不’t drink. Its quite effective. As 您 have said, and I am learning, 清醒 support needs to be a daily input. I just started listening to 您r 1-minute messages; have purchased a bundle of 您r 播客s. Thank 您.

  • 我认为它’重要的是要记住我们有选择。.我们曾经以为我们”不得不喝酒,我没有’t have any control”
    Why that may be true once we begin and our hypothetical nonexistent off button is gone, we do have a choice to open up our 清醒 toolbox and find one that will work in a given situation.
    对我来说,喝酒根本不是一种选择,所以我将精力转移到了喝酒上。
    谢谢你。今天315天?

  • Boy, did 您 ever call 沃尔菲 out! Not only does he tell me I can’t email/read blogs/do 清醒 stuff, he’声音告诉我我可以’尝试任何新事物。他确实是我脑中的消极委员会会议。

  • My 沃尔菲 would say, “每天发送三遍电子邮件?您在所有这些电子邮件中要说些什么?您打算做什么,只是抱怨这有多难?没有人愿意听到!” See how 沃尔菲 just ignores the fact that 您 suggested that I email three times a day. 沃尔菲 is a mean, manipulative d-bag. It is perfectly ok to ignore him!

  • 我的饮酒声告诉我要回去“normal”即喝几杯’ll be fine.
    我一听到那条线’m emailing 您 美女. For as long as it takes x