音讯:“I’ll Take the Stairs”

这是我每周的排5走势图播客第185集 排5走势图的播客 系列。

What do 您 say to someone, who believes that while the booze elevator may only go down, “如果它确实到达底部并且电梯门无法打开,并且我被困在那里,那么我将走楼梯。” What do 您 say to that? Are there stairs?

Why does wolfie think that going down further before we quit is a ‘good idea’? I talk about bravado, not using 您r supports, and the voice that is (always) trying to convince us “to keep on 喝, it’ll be fine,” no matter what.  and really, if it’s hard to quit now, what’ll it be like to quit later?

我以下’ve发布了整个21分钟的播客。 通常,我只是发布一个剪辑,但是今天,由于向Sober Good Works基金提供了一些非常可爱的捐款(谢谢!),我’m发布此音频以供所有人收听– even if 您’不是付费播客。一世’请将此链接保留48小时,请立即收听。

家庭作业:

after 您 listen, post a comment and tell me how long did 您 know 您 were over-drinking to the point where 您 knew 您 were going to need to do something about it, and then how much longer AFTER that point did 您 keep on 喝, cuz wolfie said “quit later…”
我也是。
48小时后,我’我会选择一个评论,然后那个人会收到一份礼物。 

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下载音频播客第185集

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(ps,我的博客允许匿名评论– so 您 don’t have to fill in a name or an email address to post 您r comment below).

在接下来的48小时内,我’选择一个博客评论,该人将收到由 排5走势图的好作品 捐款。

美女

我想将此放在网上,以追究自己的责任。我想记录一下我头上的声音。我厌倦了考虑喝酒。上次饮用日期:2012年6月30日

  • 我环顾四周,看看喝酒做了什么—- I look and 感觉 terrible –我曾经美丽的公寓。是一个烂摊子–我的财务状况一片混乱—我疏远了我的家人– I need to get off the elevator now before 我不;t have a choice –

  • “Alcohol has lost its sparkle for me, it just makes me 感觉 puffy, bad, blah, unproductive. 我不’甚至不再喜欢它的味道– craft beer, fancy wine, champagne, I can taste the life sucking poison in all of it now.”

    Thank 您 for this, JF. I’58岁,不再享受酒精,但一直坚持‘high’. I thought I must be the only one who drank even though I no longer liked the taste and knew inside what the poison was doing to my body. I knew I was going down and although I never reached the bottom, I got close (and how many days and nights have I lost and, as 您 say, productivity?). I thought it was a question of willpower, but thanks to 美女 I now realise it’s about doing things differently and having enough tools and support. Day 8 today (although 我不’我想一直数下去’m持续整个巫术时间)。它’并不容易,但我一直在想我的承诺’ve made to do 100 days. It helps to know others are working hard at this too. Thank 您 all, and 美女.

  • I’过去一年来我一直在为此苦苦挣扎,看着我,除了我的丈夫或与我讨论过挣扎的亲密朋友以外,没有人能真正确定我有饮酒问题。一世’ve没有低谷,但事实是我最长’我在尝试100天排5走势图挑战的过程中,没有喝酒就已经27天了,而这一切都变得太困难了,我忘记了为什么我会首先这样做。如果我不去那部电梯,那我将在4月11日到达第100天。 (排5走势图的萨斯签署了美女)’我现在又在电梯上,我’我非常讨厌同一部电梯音乐,我’我按下按钮下车,但车门刚赢’t open. I want to get off but wolfie is singing to me in that elevator that 您 are going on holiday next weekend back to 您r hometown, 您r family and friends won’t understand that 您 don’t drink anymore, 您 tried that last time and that’s when 您 failed to reach 您r 100 days. I hear that so loud, but I would love to get off now.

  • 我一直在这该死的电梯上下车!一世’恐怕紧急开关即将断开,可以’回到那件事上,直到我跌到谷底也许无法停止。一世’我有太多的一天,不要’不想回到那里。一直在使用我的工具,而不仅仅是收集它们,做不同的事情,并制定计划以保持不同。一世’我从那辆疯狂的电梯开了。一世’我不会回到那里。
    感谢这些音频,贝儿,他们’是我盒子里最好的工具。

  • 今天是156天。一件事我’ve注意到它已经改变了,现在我哭了。我哭的时候’我很生气,就像一个5岁的大发脾气。我哭的时候’我很沮丧,我只是哭了。和我’没关系,它没有’不要让我虚弱。站在沃尔夫和他的背包里,我感到很坚强。我用葡萄酒掩盖和淹没我的问题了很长时间…我忘了它有多治疗“feel” 您r 感觉ings and deal it with them. It sounds corny, I know… I’m okay with that too. Thank 您 美女, for everything 您 do for us.

  • 在我16岁第一次尝试喝酒并最终住院之后,知道喝酒对我来说将是一个问题。如果我能辞职的话。现在我已经36岁了,我希望我能回到16岁的自我,告诉她不要喝酒。因为我认为我的饮酒最终改变了我的生活轨迹。我刚刚意识到的事情。听了美女之后’的声音和她对电梯的类比下降,下降,下降让我觉得–如果我对自己的过去感到难过和遗憾,那么让我觉得现在继续喝酒会有什么不同呢?我会50岁,希望我能摇摇我36岁的自己并说服她停下来吗?我不’不想那样。我的生活不’t over yet, there’还有很多伟大的事情要做。我不’不想再错过了,错过了我的孩子在昏昏欲睡的烟酒中长大的感觉。我现在对YEARS的饮酒感到非常不安,甚至在一次可怕的醉酒事故后26岁时就排5走势图了6个月,但我认为AA是唯一排5走势图的方法,而我没有’在那里感觉不舒服。快进了十年,由于瑜伽,百丽,我彻底改变了饮酒习惯(消除了所有日常饮酒,但仍在社交场合饮酒)’博客和其他内容,冥想和运动。那是一年多以前,但我仍在尝试‘moderating’虽然我可以成功完成,但没有’总是工作,喝酒似乎越来越糟,使我在成长过程中停滞不前,自尊心日渐消退。所以我现在要离开电梯。今天,第36天,幸福而感恩地排5走势图。

  • 被控有罪:(我买了一个排5走势图的Jumpstart课,听了但从未保证,所以一个排5走势图的笔友是’t在我的工具箱中。我不止一次听了这个播客,’在里面,我一直在等待我的屎汇聚在一起,承诺并猜测我的所作所为’我还在喝酒我将近15年’一直试图解决这个问题,两年来检查博客,看书‘looking’ for help but still 喝. 我不’t know which floor I’m on but it’是时候在下一站下车了。

    • 您 don’t wait for the elevator to go to the next stop. 您 press the emergency button now and get the door forced open. now. the next stop might not be for awhile. when it’s time to get off, 您 do it now.

  • When my dad died unexpectedly 3 years ago I started 喝 more than I should have. A year ago I knew I had to do something about it so I dabbled in 适度. It didn’不要停止当我喝酒的时候’我只想要一杯酒,我想要整个瓶子。我最近听了一个播客,其中一位叫路易丝·罗林森的女人说,“尝试减缓和失败是旅程的一部分”. It’s like a diagnostic tool. She even mentioned 您, 美女, as a sober support to her when she was getting sober. For me, I think I needed to go as far as I did down the elevator. I 感觉 different this time, like I got off on the right floor with my suitcase in my hand. 我不’不想将其骑到寒冷,黑暗,cr脚,​​寂寞的电梯井的底部,门在那儿’t open. If 您 can’t open the doors, how the hell are 您 going to get to the stairwell?

  • 美女,我是那些排5走势图的Jumpstart人之一’不使用电话。我在想什么它’很难记住3年(!!)。我似乎想起了沃尔菲说的“What would 您 talk about? She doesn’t have time for 您. You’re weak. You’re a whiner.”你知道,通常是沃尔夫废话。经过一年的保全后的某个时候,我遇到了一个艰难的时刻,最终我注册了一个排5走势图的电话。你很温暖& easy to talk to, and 您 helped me get unstuck. To anyone who is 感觉ing shy, like I was, I encourage 您 to give it a try. There was no judgment, only down to earth support. My nervousness lasted about 30 seconds and then I felt a flood of relief. Thanks for always being there!

  • Thank 您, 美女. This 播客 really resonated with me. I am one of those starter/stoppers and this 播客 really motivated me. I also listed to the one about taking care of 您rself. I need to use one of the many tools other than booze to take the “edge” off.

  • 多天的。今天是第62天。在每一天中,电梯又上升了一点。即使我现在的生活很艰难(其他事情),面对这种狗屎排5走势图最终还是要容易得多。它一直在上升,我可以看到太阳,我可以看到草,我可以看到风景 –一寸一寸,一天又一天,它一直在上升–和最愚蠢的东西–例如打电话或洗衣服都比较容易。当我喝酒时,一切都是无法克服的–因为我的电梯离井太远了,所以光线根本不算什么– so why bother – I’请再喝一杯。现在,井就在我下面,并且一直在走得更远。

  • 美女, 您 have a way of making matters so clear, of demystifying Wolfie, of turning overdramatic events into simple truths, into concrete situations that can be dealt with, I’d like to thank 您 for that. Listening to 您 is always helpful. I listened to the whole 播客 and I agree with everything 您 say. Enough with the excuses, enough with the incessant 思维, enough with it all! Been 喝 way too long, way too much, for six years, but didn’t quit, didn’什么都没做,没有’不能保持排5走势图的时间,因为Wolfie一直告诉我我没有’有问题。我没’t sleeping on a bench, because of alcohol, 您 see. I wasn’由于饮酒而入狱。等等等等,现在我’m 323天排5走势图,我感到难以置信。我觉得自由! Emmylou Harris在她的一首歌中说:“the thing they don’t tell 您 ’bout 蓝调 when 您 got ’em, 您 keep on fallin’ ’cause there ain’无底的’t no end…”一个可以轻松替换“the blues” with “the wolves”。饮水机只在下降。有一个’t no stairs. They’再幻想。沃尔夫·伊克造成的一种精神错觉。

  • 哦,我的天啊!这曾经和我一起回家吗?即使我’电梯中的幽闭恐惧症我会继续上下骑电梯大约10年。我乘电梯前往的许多楼层中,总是在10楼有一个聚会,在5楼有一个聚会,或者在420上有一个婚礼,或者某种形式的庆祝活动或某种灾难。我知道我必须戒掉惯常的饮酒习惯,但是从来没有足够的时间下电梯。我尝试了几次,但收效甚微。只有当我了解Wolfie的声音又名Belle’我明白我可以说不的那种对b ****的自恋说谎儿子的解释。因此,我从高楼层离开电梯,那里有工具,支持,醒目的快速入门课程,醒目的博客,各种各样的Creature Comforts,它们可以帮助我度过最初的3-4周。今天是我90天的日子,我知道Sam仍然很短的时间,但是对我来说,感觉真的很好,感觉很坚强,我将继续进行我的一百天并从那里开始。我认为美女’的课程以及我下车的愿望是我持续排5走势图的重要因素,而我不’甚至不想再认真喝酒了’t a joke.

  • 出色的播客。我从13岁起就开始喝酒了,我已经快45岁了,真是可悲。我一眼就知道我需要在20多岁和30多岁的时候下电梯。我真的开始读排5走势图的博客和其他博客’故事和理解,我在过去3-5年中遇到了实际问题。我开始‘rules’ and trying ‘moderation’ in the last year. Alcohol has lost its sparkle for me, it just makes me 感觉 puffy, bad, blah, unproductive. 我不’甚至不再喜欢它的味道–精酿啤酒,精美的葡萄酒,香槟,现在我可以品尝到所有吸毒的生命。我现在知道我需要永远离开该死的电梯。我知道了。荣耀荣耀哈利路亚!我今天排5走势图18天。我开始感觉真的很好,将来可以不喝酒就能过上美好的生活。我过着美好的生活,并计划保持这种状态。

  • 辉煌!戒酒没有’t require desperation! Why would we possibly think for one second that it will be easier if we let it get worse? Because 喝 is NOT logical and NOBODY, I mean NOBODY wants to stop 喝. When I heard 您 say that the first time I actually started crying. Oh wait. Nobody wants to quit? It makes sense to quit before I need to go to rehab? Well ok. Let’s do it!

  • Thank 您, 美女, and for everyone who’写在这里。我没有’还没有听音频,但是我随身携带这本书 –我什至发现自己最近在一个停车场与Wolfie发生争执。我从背包里拿起那本书,这不仅使我节省了一天的时间,而且让我感到更加镇定。它’尤其能帮助我听取老年人的意见。一世’m 58,已经喝了很多年。我认为多少是太多的问题,‘is this normal?’我三十多岁进入了我的脑海。我四十岁开始变得非常担心,放弃了一段时间–感觉真的很好,给了我很多时间做其他事情。但它永远不会消失,因为我’d做出了使其成为我的应对机制的错误选择。所以现在我’我想挽救我的生命和我所珍惜的一切。

  • 哇…出色的音频。我那时24岁(几年前)… now I’我是那个年龄的两倍,所以我’ve肯定要等到病情恶化为止(这意味着我想继续喝酒)。我没’那时我还很绝望’d变得更容易,否则会有更好的时间来处理它。或者得到这个,我想我会学会以某种方式控制它,然后我会变成普通的饮酒者!嗯,那没有’t happen…但是发生了什么?现在戒烟变得更加困难!饮酒的方式已经很成熟,我的友谊团体都在喝酒,我渴望麻木,’我浪费了很多天,我再也回不来了。唐’不会误会我的意思’t all bad, I sure had a lot of fun at times. But this 音讯 made me realize my obsession with alcohol and how much time it has sucked away from me. I thought I could quit anytime I really, truly wanted to for so long. I just bought 您r book and I can’t stop reading it, I can resonate with so many things 您 are writing about 美女. I had to put the book down long enough to write this. Thanks for hitting me between the eyes with this. I just got off the elevator to hell a couple days ago and I’我不再相处了,我’m walking away from the manhole/sewer (can 您 tell where I am in the book right now?) and I’m走进阳光,有云的机会。

  • 我在书中最喜欢的几行之一:
    “Sobriety – it’不再是酗酒者了。”
    我喜欢这个,因为我们确实可以选择。多年以来,我一直坚信自己没有 ’t, that I was diseased and powerless. I am on Day 8 today, sober with the help of tools I had never heard of before, such as replacement drinks and daily rewards. It 感觉s good to take charge of something I had resigned myself to, and be surrounded by people who understand. Thank 您 all.

  • 当我21岁时,声音说‘继续喝这是今年’。当我22岁时,声音说‘it’s ok, 多一个 year won’t hurt’依此类推再等了8年,甚至在破坏了我的结婚周年纪念日之后,被推翻,破产之后,声音仍然说着“it’好的,没人注意到,当时’t that bad, 您’re fine…您可以随时停下来”。但是我永远做不到。我的电梯坏了,门没了’t opened for a long time and there was no bathroom so 您 can imagine the mess when it finally stopped and opened up! Now I am 32 and 110 days sober for the first time. 🙂 still a little shell shocked though….

  • Thank 您 美女, that was what I needed to wake up to this morning. It’学会识别沃尔菲(当他打扮成绵羊时)–我到了第97天,然后向自己开玩笑“看到我在控制中,我’m doing this for me – I can have 只有一个 and go back to the sober wagon” –以及这些旧习惯又有多快赶回来。再次回到第一天–但这一次我将获得更多排5走势图的支持。需要打些电话和其他排5走势图支持的时间。我是治疗师–度过我与Wolfie一起支持别人的日子,并使他们重新生活在一起,所以Wolfie告诉我我不应该’不需要任何其他帮助–我应该以某种方式知道如何治愈自己,而且时间太长了,就像酒瓶的底部一样。第一天

  • 我可能知道我需要在30岁左右停下来。我浪费了十年的饮酒时间,并给自己造成了很多问题。我总是说我’d如果我住院了,请停下来。我跌倒后做了。在那之后我花了1 1/2年才排5走势图起来。下车真好。谢谢!!

  • A big difference between being 您ng and being not-young for me is that now I do know there may not be any stairs. I started over-drinking quite suddenly in response to a trauma and knew it was dangerous right away. I started 美女’s 100天挑战 16 years later. Today is day 100 (!!!!!) and I want to thank 您, 美女 for sharing a point of view which enabled me to step away from shame and toward positive action. Also, thanks to 排5走势图的好作品 people for the 音讯.

  • 我那时才24岁。在我不知所措之前,我是一个伤心欲绝,疲惫不堪,绝望的47岁笨蛋,并为此感到遗憾。在我们找借口并假装一切都还可以的同时,沃尔夫偷走了我们的时间,潜力和选择。我们可以’不能把那东西拿回来。因此,对于围栏上任何想戒烟的人,快点,快点,逃离那个电梯!

  • 我开始进行有关饮酒问题的Google搜索,“am I an alcoholic”大约10年前的测验。当时我没有’除了AA之外,找不到任何排5走势图的博客作者或其他支持者,我感到(并且仍然如此)该解决方案不适合我。我看过治疗师多年了。她帮我整理了100件事中的99件事,’t one of them…her brain didn’那样工作(她很容易承认)。几年前,我找到了Belle,并成功完成了100天挑战赛。我报名参加了180次比赛,并在大约30天后崩溃。“Just one”当然使我走下了滑坡。我还在喝酒…sometimes “normally” and 有时way too much and way too often. I started hanging out on this blog again recently. I’一个聪明的人,我在理智上知道’愚蠢,但我似乎无法解决这个问题,如果我’m being honest, I’m in the “I don’t want to” camp. That said, I’我已经开始为我的工具箱加油,并将继续进行直到它充满为止“clicks” for me.

    • 没有人愿意在他们退出时’重新还在喝酒。那’s wolfie speaking. once 您 move away from day 1, that voice stops. 您 can add in some new tools and get going, and 感觉 better again. waiting for a ‘click’ is wolfie too. it’s his way of saying “继续喝酒直到变得困难…” ~hugs from me

    • Hi – something about 您r post resonated with me. I, like 您, lurked around the internet trying to find a label for my over-drinking for years. AA did not seem to fit. Then I found the blog, Off-Dry and 美女. So fast forward. I have completed two 100天挑战s. I love myself sober, even though it is 有时so sucky and hard. But I can count on myself. But both times I have started “moderation”在第102天。现在,这是我第二次意识到,我不时与朋友们一起享受葡萄酒的幻想越来越少。我每天都在喝酒。它正在爬来爬去。我开始看起来像早晨的狗屎。试图节制(意味着每周喝几次)变得不可能。我开始考虑午后一大杯旧酒。当我喝那大杯旧酒时,一切都停止了。思考的感觉,做项目。 。 。一切。知道吗?我很生气,我可以’做这个。我很生气,我可以’成为普通的饮酒者。 。 。 :(而且我也是一个聪明的人,并认为我应该能够让自己成为普通的饮酒者……而不是过度饮酒的人。
      And then I remember somewhere 美女 says, 您 are not broken. Remove the booze and things get better.
      那么又是100,然后这次真的达到180甚至更高?考虑一下是否值得。

  • 好消息。我知道在问题真正变成问题之前,我已经遇到了问题,或者其他任何人都知道。我可以清楚地记得自己的想法…you’re going to turn into an alcoholic if 您 keep this up. And I looked down on people that had that problem. So I continued, telling myself I’d有一天我会聚在一起’变成那个。好吧,那没有’不会发生。我一直走着,听那该死的声音,告诉自己我’d stop later. I pretty much did 触底 almost losing my family. I went through hell dealing with all that, being kicked out of the house. It would have been much easier to attack the problem earlier and get support like 您rs that made sense of the illogical thoughts that would run through my head every day. I thought it came down to willpower but it’比这更复杂。对于任何在外面奋斗的人,请立即下车。不会啦’s not easy, but it only gets harder if 您 keep going and 您’一路上可能会带来更多后果。我认为我的问题很大一部分是我实际上害怕停止–当它造成这么多问题时,这绝对没有任何意义。那’我的思想多么混乱。有时我仍然感到沮丧,不再喝酒–但是当我回顾过去的2-1 / 2年并问自己是否’我错过了喝酒。一定不行!我没有’我错过任何事情,我’m a much happier person without it. Thanks for all 您 do 美女 🙂

    • 是的,它’s always going to be hard whether 您’关于22岁或57岁。我22岁那年停止喝酒已有2年了,记得那几年真是太棒了!我在24岁时再次接机,现在我’ve tried stopping for almost 2 years (since 2015) 我不’不知道我是否可以再做一次。我57岁。

      Keep going with 您r good work 美女. You will save a a lot of lives.

  • 我所知道的岁月– I was never right at the bottom but booze has impacted on every aspect of my life. For the last 5 or 6 years I have stopped 喝, 有时for months and then something has led me back to ‘just one’然后也许我停了一个星期之后‘one more’。然后我从那个湿滑的斜坡上滑下来,发现自己回到了第一广场。有时要花上几个月的时间,我才能重新开始变得排5走势图。’t right … ha!! I am re-starting again, day 7 today. I need to make sure I never forget that ANY voice that suggests having a drink is wolfie. Any voice that suggests 只有一个 will be okay is wolfie. And when I hear that voice I need to make sure I show him the door … and quickly! Thank 您 美女!

  • 啊,美女’s like 您 have some weird clairvoyance- knowing what people need before they do. After listening to this 音讯 again, I realize I’我就是那个“saving”她的最后一个电话。在我看来,这确实有道理,但我当然可以接到更多电话…..it’s more important that 我不’从来都不认为我可以走楼梯。

  • 美女, I have been following 您r posts for a while but now at day 18, I can really appreciate 您r message. I have seriously considered my wine 习惯 for the last 4 years (long story) and did not “hit bottom”。引起我共鸣的讯息是“stop before 您 are ready”. My wolfie said “really,are 您 kidding me?” But I have stopped and will continue with the support (however virtual) with 您! and others

  • 我知道问题出在5年后,然后两年,我会退出一个月或更长时间,然后重新开始。然后在百丽和其他支持者的陪同下进行了100天,然后又回到了原处。现在我要一年了。

    这是一个非常好的音频– 您 will never 感觉 like quitting. Only other people with the same brain get this. Thanks 美女!

  • 最后一天免费254 :)
    Thank 您 美女, Thank 您 generous donors:)
    这是一个完美的时机,我正要去佛罗里达,我的母亲(86岁)
    昨天摔倒摔伤了臀部。我好两三个月没听说过狼人了…but today he is yelling!! so thank 您 for the exact words I needed to hear today.
    您 are a blessing

    • 我第一次以为自己有问题是十多年前。饮酒在我的人际关系中引起了巨大的争斗,我什至与我的治疗师讨论了这一问题,因为我担心自己遇到了问题。他像下一个一样向我保证,听起来更像“emotional 喝” vs alcoholism.

      Ok… Thanks guys.

      快进了十年(减去229天!),我辞职了。